Acceptance

Accepting your divorce is a matter of choice and a critical component to your recovery. It doesn’t mean that you like it or that it is fair. The only thing you have control over is how you choose to see things and how you react to the curveballs that life delivers. Mourning the loss of your marriage is natural. It is challenging to move past the pain of divorce and to begin to rebuild a life you never intended to live. Not accepting your divorce as a reality keeps you stuck in the past and doesn’t change anything. It is very difficult to live a productive life in the present moment and plan for the future if your head and heart are focused on what used to be. It is about self-worth. Perspective becomes everything. Learning to accept the reality of your divorce and to consciously focus on your blessings will help you develop the clarity you need to begin to live your life to the fullest.

Changing is a matter of conscious choice, desire, effort, and commitment to oneself. The truth is that you have two choices. You can remain stuck in your pain or you can do the challenging work that it takes to move forward. There are four steps in learning how to come to terms with your divorce:

1. Accept where you are right now.
2. Take responsibility for your actions and own your own mistakes.
3. Practice mindfulness and gratitude.
4. Take advantage of the opportunity for a new beginning.

Through these steps you will learn to let go of the negative emotions of anger, blame, resentment, and regret. This practice will allow you the freedom to move forward in creating a life based on your passions and values.

As your personal divorce coach, I will help guide you through the four steps of acceptance. I will also teach you skills to enhance your ability to make room for positive thoughts that will spur you into actions that benefit you and the life you want to live.